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Sunday, January 8, 2012

Babies just couldn't wait any longer

Yep...I delivered!! The girls just couldn't wait any longer I guess. Let me back up and start at the beginning.
Wednesday the 4th, I was hanging out at home with Rylee. We were having a lazy day. At around 5 in the evening I started getting braxton hicks. Nothing out of the ordinary for me. I layed on the couch and started drinking a glass of water. That has always made them go away before. Well this time they didn't go away, instead they started to get a little painful. My back started to ache. That is when I made the decision to head to the hospital just to get checked out. I dropped Rylee off with the babysitter. I really wasn't in pain. Just wanted to get these braxton hicks to stop. I drove my self to the hospital. Walked in, got checked in. The nurse put me on the monitor and within 5 mins she was on the phone with my Dr. I was having contractions one every minute. She came back in to check me and I was dilated to a 5.5.   I was SHOCKED. I had no idea that I was in true labor. Within the minutes, I had 4 nurses rushing into my room. It was very chaotic. At that point in time I texted Tess, she is the lady  who runs my surrogate agency, and someone I now consider a friend. She was on her way down to be with me. She also called the parents to let them know what was going on. They gave me a shot of terbutaline to try to stop the contractions, they started me on Magnesium and gave me my first shot of steroids to help mature the baby's lungs. They also dropped the head of my bed down so I was laying sort of upside down, to try to keep the pressure off my cervix and to hope that gravity would help us. I stayed like that for about 2hrs. They kept increasing my mag. The Dr at that point was hoping to just buy us 24-48hrs to get the 2nd dose of steroids in for babies lungs.
The pain was starting to get pretty bad during that 2 hrs. After midnight I told the nurse that I was feeling a lot of pressure and felt like I needed to push. I was checked and was told my bag of water was right there and bulging. They said I dilated to about an 8 and we weren't going to be holding delivery off any longer. I had an ultrasound done  when the 4 nurses came rushing in. Baby A was breach and baby B was transverse (laying right across the top of my uterus sideways.) So we were heading into a c-section. At this point I was SO scared. I had no idea what to expect as far as how the babies were going to be. The NICU team had come into talk to us and what they told us sounded pretty scary. I was also scared to have major surgery. My Dr was amazing and very comforting toward me. I survived the surgery. Baby A came out first, she was born at 0115 Thursday the 5th. She came out screaming and weighed 3#3 and 16in long. Baby B was more difficult to deliver. The Dr said her cord was wrapped around her neck. She came out very quiet and limp. She was born at 0118, weighing in at 2#14 and 15 3/4in long.
This was definitely not the delivery story I expected to be sharing with you all. I never thought I would have these girls this early.
My Dr came in Thursday morning after I'd had some rest. He told me after he went home he thought and thought and couldn't figure out why I'd delivered so early. I had no warning signs, no infection, no bleeding. Then he told me that it hit him.
Baby B's cord was wrapped SO tightly around her neck that he is convinced that she wouldn't have had much more time. If the meds would have stalled my labor by even a few more hour's, we would have a totally different outcome.
My Dr told me that he felt like God had a plan for these babies and that they needed to come out when they did. After hearing that, a lot of guilt was lifted off my shoulders.
I am so grateful that my body gave me a warning sign and that I listened to it.
I have so much more to share, but it will take some time to get it all out.
A few thanks...Tess, she was amazing. She got right down to the hospital, when I needed her. She stayed with me until middle of the night, she held my hand through surgery (which was one of the scariest times of my whole life) and she checked up on me the whole weekend. She went way above and beyond for me and I'm forever grateful.
Also to J, the mom of the babies. I was so worried that she would question me, what I did or if I could have done something differently to have a different outcome. I've skyped her everyday since the girls were born and she's never made me feel like she blames me. She was thankful I told her what my Dr said and she is so thankful that we have the outcome that we do.
I have tons of amazing friends and family. They all prayed for me and the babies, visited, called and facebooked me.
The staff at the hospital was more than I could have asked for. Every person was more than nice, helpful and no one made me feel awkward, esp in the nicu, being only the surrogate mom and not the biological mom. They've let me come and go as I please, the nurses and Dr's have also jumped on skype everyday to update mom and dad. They were all just so awesome.
Were not going to be sharing pictures of the babies right now, as they are just a little too little. As they get bigger and healthier I may get to. Take my word for it...there super cute!!!

5 comments:

  1. Thank you for this blog, and the journey you have taken us all on through writing it. You have explained your whole experience so clearly that it feels like we're right there with you. It's a blessing that you have been able to listen to that quiet voice inside yourself, that is God, and make it possible for these two babies to come into this world. You have traveled across the world, met a couple who have been unable to deliver babies, really care about carrying their babies and then go through the delivery and emotions that you went through this week. It's obvious that God has big plans for these little baby girls, but it's more obvious to me that you are living your destiny that God wants you to live.
    I feel very blessed that God chose me to be your mom, and that you have made my life better by being a part of it. I am so very proud of the mom you are and the surrogate mom that you are to these two babies. I love you.

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  2. Thank you so much for sharing your journey. You are an amazing woman who has given a wonderful gift :)

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  3. What a journey, Bridget. I hope you are home, comfortable and healing. You are wonderful. Im praying for you all. I love you, Denise.

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  4. Thank you for letting us be a part of your journey. It is such a blessing to witness unconditional love, like you have. I am honored to know you and call you family.

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  5. To give birth to a baby is one of the best acts for women, but to be a surrogate mother is like a heroic feat. Thanks to a surrogate mother, a new life comes into this world. The surrogacy is allowed in some countries. The laws are different! A surrogate mother in Russia has the right to a child as opposed to the Ukrainian legislation. A child born in India, is a citizen of the country, and it adds problems during the formalization of the documents for the trip.

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